Some people try way too hard. Don't be one of those people.

Don't ask. I just felt like posting that. ;)

Two things I learned about dating in 2010.

Actually, I learned a lot about dating in 2010. The 2 I picked may sound really, really obvious, but I personaly think they are still worth stating.

• Guys: Respect your girl's beliefs.
  If your girlfriend (or the girl you would like to make your girlfriend) has a different view on something than you do, hear her out! Why does she believe that? What drew her to the conclusion that caused her to form that belief? Don't dump or ignore her because of a difference of opinion. Listen to her reasoning behind it. Who knows? You find that you may agree!
  **The key word here is RESPECT. Don't force her to change her mind or do something she doesn't want to.**
• Girls: If the guy won't respect your beliefs, find one who will.
  I have some experience in this area. I'm a TLW kind of girl. (10 points if you recognize the acronym! ;) ) Not all guys think that being TLW is a good thing, which I didn't fully realize until 2010.
  If the guy is pressuring you to change your beliefs or do something that you don't want to, tell him NO and drop him as fast as you can. (Yep, I had to do this.)

I need to buy this CD.

"Bad day? There's a Taylor Swift song for that."

:)




Song: The Story Of Us
Artist: Taylor Swift
Album: Speak Now (2010)

"I bring it to You..."

Artist: Avalon
Song: I Bring It To You
Album: The Creed (2004)

Love, love, love. If you're worrying about something right now, listen to this song!

Fall 2010, let's go!!

Dear Fall 2010:
I have never been happier for a new semester to get here. Please go better than Summer 2010 did.
Love, breakingsilence

That's not to say that parts of my summer weren't amazing. I got to hang out with every single one of my best girl friends this summer. That has NEVER happened before. There's always someone I can't get together with, but somehow I managed to pull it off this year. Lots of laughter + lots of Starbucks consumed = AWESOME. Oh, and I kicked macroeconomics' butt. Haha. That part of Summer 2010 = A+

The rest of summer 2010 = Ehh. I don't really care to go into the whole story. Let's just say that anything that inspires a blogger to write a series on Dealing With Drama can't be good.

The new semester starts next week, and I CANNOT WAIT. It's gonna be fabulous, I can tell. :)

Oh, and I want this shirt. --> click

Question: I'm going to be running around campus a LOT next semester. I need some suggestions on healthy and portable snacks I can slip in my purse and munch on in between classes. Anything?

Dealing With Drama :: Random Advice

If you seem to be dealing with more drama than you're used to...

• Talk to someone. Friends, family, whoever would be willing to lend an ear (or a text). You might get some really good advice!
• Scream into a pillow.
• Go for a walk/run.
• Blast your music and sing along as loud as you want.

Song of the Week:

Artist: Carrie Underwood
Song: Undo It
Album: Play On (2009)

Dealing With Drama :: Work

If you're one of the few college students that can get through school without having to take a part-time job, I have 2 things to say:

1. How did you manage that?
2. I am super jealous. Haha.

A lot of us do have to work part time through college, which can open up a whole new can of worms: WORK DRAMA! Here are just a few tips to help you minimize work drama:

• Make friends with your coworkers and do what your managers/supervisors tell you (unless, obviously, it's illegal).
• If you absolutely cannot make friends with your coworkers, bring a book or your iPod with you to keep you occupied on breaks.
• If you decide to go out with a few of your coworkers one night after work, make sure you stay sober and alert. The last thing you need is for something you did the night before to be all over the office the next morning!
• Stay out of the office gossip mill. As tempting as it might be to spread around what one of your coworkers did the night before, avoid it at all costs, especially if you were not there. If you weren't there, you don't know the whole story.
• If you end up not liking your job, but can't find another one, live by this mantra: Go to work, do your job, and go home. It's just a part-time job, not your chosen career.

Dealing With Drama :: Guys

"I don't get it. Guys say that girls are complicated, have they met themselves?" -piece of flair on Facebook

I love it when random things you read while wasting time come in handy. Yes, we girls are complicated. I'm not debating that point. But guys can be just as complicated. (Any guy that would be willing to debate this point can leave a comment on this post.) Most guys don't intentionally cause drama. It just happens, especially when a girl likes a guy! Now, I am the furthest thing from an expert on this subject, but here are some things I've learned recently about minimizing guy drama:

• If he likes you, he'll let you know. I have learned ONE thing about guys this year, and that is when a guy likes you, he WILL make it known. He may not come right out and say "I like you, will you go out with me?" right away, but there are other ways he'll show his feelings. He'll try to get in contact with you as often as possible through phone calls, texts, IM, or Facebook. Or some combination of the 4!! If you have a part-time job and he knows it, he might stop in "just to say hi".
• If you are interested back, encourage him! Answer the phone when he calls. Text him back. Reply to his wall post or IM. If he's dropping hints that you should come by his work "sometime", then do it! If he's truly interested in you, he will love the fact that you took the time to come say hey to him.
• If you're NOT interested, don't string him along. Enough said. But let him down gently.
• Do. Not. Obsess. It just causes more drama. Put the phone down. Log off of Facebook. Go out for a walk or run. Hit Starbucks or the mall with your (girl) friends. Having a staring contest with your phone is not going to make him reply any faster, and being on Facebook until midnight will not make him log on any sooner. (I'm preaching to myself here.) Don't text him 9345798 times asking "Where are you? Are you ok? Why haven't you messaged me today?!". Think: Would you like it if a guy was doing that to you?
• Alcohol is never a good addition to the mix. When out with a guy (on a date or just as friends), stay sober. Thank you Ellen for the reminder!!
• Just be yourself. I can hear the groans now. I know we've been hearing this since middle school, but it's so true! Don't change who you are or what you believe for a guy. I don't care how much of a cutie he is. If he can't accept you for you, then he's not worth it.

Dealing With Drama :: The Intro

Drama -
any situation or series of events having vivid, emotional, conflicting, or striking interest or results. [Source: Dictionary.com]

breakingsilence's definition of drama-
Something that should've been left behind in high school, yet continues to follow us, whether we like it or not!!

Most people associate drama with silly little high school girls whispering between classes about who did what before first period. Unfortunately, high school drama is just the beginning. It multiplies once you get into college and continues when you get a job. If you allow drama to affect you too much, it can mess with your mood...and by association, your health. You can't escape drama, but there are ways to deal with it. In this series, we'll be talking about...

• school drama
• guy drama (assuming only girls read this blog...sorry dudes lol)
• part-time job drama

and ways to deal with each type. If you have any suggestions/comments/ways you deal with drama, drop a comment on this post!